Sex & intimacy

Sex & intimacy

Learn more about topics such as sexual health, safer sex and sex after transition.

It can be difficult to find accurate and inclusive information about sexual health and relationships. We’ve prepared the following trans-specific information to support your sexual health.

We recognize that not all trans people are interested in having sexual or romantic relationships and some trans people are asexual Someone who does not experience sexual desire for people of any gender. Some asexual people desire romantic relationships, while others do not. Asexuality can be considered a spectrum, with some asexual people experiencing desire for varying types of intimacy. This desire can fluctuate over time. Asexuality is distinct from celibacy, which is the deliberate refraining from sexual activity. Asexual people experience high levels of invisibility and trivialization. (Source: QMUNITY) , aromantic or on the asexual spectrum. Just as there are many ways to affirm or express your gender, there are many ways to experience your sexuality.

Sex after transition

Affirming or embodying our gender is a profound journey of self-discovery. It affects many parts of our lives, including how we understand and express our sexuality. The resources below may help you on this journey.

  • Kindling our curiosity (Vol. 1) — Helps you explore your relationship with your sexual health and define what sexual health looks like for you in your authentic gender. 
  • Demystifying sex drive & sexual response — Discusses arousal and desire and the physical and emotional changes that come with transitioning. 
  • Kindling our curiosity (Vol. 2) — Explores how your interactions with health care may have impacted your experience of your body and sexuality. It offers ways to be in community, affirm your gender, explore sex and feel safe.

You may choose to discuss your trans identity with partners or dates. You are entitled to have safer, enjoyable sex where your body and identity are respected.

  • Kindling our curiosity (Vol. 3) — Invites you to think about the topics of disclosure and consent, providing lots of suggestions for how to navigate conversations.

Having sex after a transition may feel like a big step. Some people may choose to talk to a counsellor before engaging in romantic or sexual relationships.

Sex after surgery

Following a gender-affirming surgery, you need some time to recover. Our surgery guides provide information on recovery and returning to sexual activity. In addition, your doctor will let you know when it is safe to have sex. 

Sex & reproduction

If you are interested in having babies, visit our section on Starting a Family: Information on Reproductive Health to get more information.

Resources

We’ve collected several resources you may find helpful about your well-being and sexual health. 

Online

  • Opt (Options for Sexual Health) — this is a free and confidential service for people living in B.C. The organization can connect you with nurses, counsellors, and sex educators who can answer trans-specific questions about sexual health.

Print guides

Please note: These resources contain images or wording that some may find graphic or even explicit.